“Self-centred”?

In the last week or so, I (Megan) have had the concept of “self-centred” being a good thing introduced or re-introduced to me. This idea earlier in the week had me experience an “Ah ha” moment and now after the happenings of the rest of my week, the concept of “self-centred” being a good thing  leaves me sitting with feelings of confusion and guilt. Guilt around the thought of some of the things I have done recently being “self-centred” and concerns around the impact of that on others. I then also think about things I have done in the last few weeks and how much has been for other people and I am re-introduced to the concept of “self-lessness”. Sitting here now sick and exhausted I wonder have my actions recently been more for myself, more for others or have they been balanced?

In the past I have found myself at times frustrated with people for being so “selfish” and at other times feeling inadequate against people who give so much to others. I understand comparing myself to others is not a useful thing and I also know that my human mind does this at times and that what I am comparing is something I am not comfortable/confident or clear on within myself. I wonder about how placing more weight on thinking about how things effect others can impact decisions and actions and how placing more weight on self can also have significant repercussions. I have experienced the effects of both whether it be my actions impact on others or others actions impact on me.

When thinking about a balance between “for self” and “for others” I wonder if “self-centred(balanced)” has a place in this?

So I ask you:

How do you feel about the term “self-centred”?
How do you feel about the concept of being “self-less”?
Do you make decisions based largely on the impact your actions may have on yourself or others?
How do you feel about the way you make these decisions?
What is a healthy balance between doing for self and others for you right now?
What does this look like? What are you doing?