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The Doing In The Being
Do you get anxious about not getting “enough” done? Do you feel guilty for having a quiet day? Do you give yourself a hard time for “doing nothing”? The glorification of busy in our world is out of control and unhealthy!!! People actually compete to be the “most busy” and “most exhausted”. These terms are worn like a badge of honour, but I ask in this, what are we truly honouring? It certainly isn’t ourselves, our loved ones or this planet. In our busyness and exhaustion we lose sight of what is really important. We lose patience. Of course there are going to be times when we are busy and exhausted and there is little we can do about it AND there are so many more times when we can do something about it. When we can say NO!!! I know especially as women we can be absolutely rubbish at this. At times we can walk around feeling the weight of the world rests solely on our shoulders. That if we don’t do this and don’t do this right now then the world will crumble around us and everyone else. HA!!! Sister you are strong and powerful and important but not in that way and nor do you need to be. We need to find new power and strength. We need to find sustainable service. We need to find balance. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying back out on anything you aren’t 100% excited about. I’m not giving a “get out of jail free card” that means you can bail when things get tough which can then leave... read more
This September
I remember September. The month of my birthday, the 13th. The month I would celebrate the day I arrived earth side in 1981. I remember parties, laughter, fun, celebration and reflection over the years. I remember last September the 13th. Sitting outside in the sunshine on our property while my partner did some gardening, I journaled , drew and worked on the book I was making for my baby. I remember thinking and talking about how strange it was that this would be my last birthday without my baby earth side with me. This September marks 6 months since Kai Phoenix, my precious baby boy, was born sleeping. It marks the day his heart stopped beating and my heart broke. It marks the day all I believed was shattered. It marks the day the world, my life, I changed forever. As I enter September 2016 I am certainly reflecting and I know there will be laughter, but this is not the way I saw my life. I imagined I would be cuddling my little one, having cake and singing. I imagined I would be thinking about how much my life and I have changed since becoming a mother. While this is true, this is not the change I imagined or ever dreamed of. Instead this year I imagine what might have been. I cry and miss and long for my precious son. I do what I can to pick up the pieces of myself, my life that still make some level of sense. While I remain open to the possibility that in the future I will... read more
Head Above Water
I have found grief to be like the ocean. At times it is ferocious, it batters me around and I struggle to just get a breath. Other times there is a peacefulness, the grief isn’t gone, I am still surrounded by it AND at the same time I can see what else is happening around me. It is so important to allow time for grief. To be with the pounding, unrelenting waves when they arise and to experience the peace when it is present. This is easier said than done. It can be tempting to try and avoid the heavy pain on the really bad days and it can be hard to allow peace and joy without also feeling guilt. It takes compassion and it takes practice. Grief isn’t linear, there is no end, just change. Allow what is. There is no time frame. There is no right or wrong. There is just your experience and the support you receive. So much love to all of you in your grief and joy and everything in... read more
What Lies Beneath…..
Ok. I’m going to let you know straight up, this post is one to challenge you so if you’re not up for it then best to move along now. So you’re up for a challenge? You’ve got some self love and self belief in there then dear sistar and I acknowledge you for that. My question to you is, what are you hiding from yourself in plain sight? What are you choosing to ignore? Is there something you are doing, saying, allowing that you know is not in honour of your highest good? If you have said yes to any of these then I ask you now… Is it time, are you willing to let this go and give yourself the gift of self love and self care by making a change? What is it you are choosing to allow to carry on when you know it is no good for you? Name it. Speak it. Share it. I know there is shame there. I know it feels easier to keep it in the shadows but the unspoken gains power by remaining unspoken. Find someone you trust and take the power from this by brining it into the light. Transform it to be your power. I know you can. You deserve the freedom. Love to you... read more
Body Talks
Our bodies have their own language. A language that we need to learn through self love and deep listening. Our bodies hold deep wisdom if we take the time to listen and learn. So often in our lives we just push through, push through exhaustion, push through pain, push through the messages our bodies are giving us. There has become a glorification of busy. A competitiveness in being the busiest. A guilt around not doing. So blocking out what our bodies tell us becomes more and more important because so often when we do block out what our bodies are telling us the voices of our bodies get louder and louder, trying to get our attention. I have been through my own journey from not listening to my body to my body being so loud I had no choice, which gave me the chance to start to develop a relationship of listening to my body and responding with love and respect. Do you know the language of your body? Have you been paying attention? What might your body be trying to tell you? How might you listen to your body more? With love xox... read more
The Winds of Change
Have you ever felt the tension in preparation for big change? Have you been challenged by the in between? Are you there now? One thing we know for sure is that change will come, again, again and again. What we don’t know is what it will look like and how we will be within that change. At this point in time I am going through massive changes and at the same time awaiting probably what will be one of if not the biggest change in my life, becoming a mother. While I know this will be a big time of change, I have done research, asked questions and had experience with other children, nothing can truly prepare me for what life will be like on the other side. This feeling of waiting to jump into the unknown and the knowing that even the timing of when I will have this baby join me earth side is completely out of my hands. Anticipation and at times frustration can pull me out of being present to what is happening for me right now. Getting so caught up in what might be that I forget to be with what is happening now. When I take time to be with what is happening now it can help uncover some important learning and regain some much needed peace when I really need it. Change can be a challenge. It can also be a blessing. How are you with change? How are you with the in between? How can you be with and learn from your feelings that are coming up around... read more
About Me
Before I left school I was asked what I wanted to do, all I could answer was “I want to make people happy”. At that time I didn’t know how but was blessed with a teacher that helped me start down a path that has seen me meet so many beautiful people from so many walks of life. 
